That’s pretty concerning, my mother went through a similar relationship early in her life, he was older than my grandparents.

You do you, but anecdotally, for her, the relationship may have started out okay, but they were never equal. He treated her like a daughter that he fucked every once in a while. Power dynamics in relationships are extra screwy when the age gap is more than 20 years. Our holiday dinners at home were always very awkward.

Their relationship lasted about 20 years, imo it should never have started in the first place. She remarried afterwards to someone her age and finally found some companionship instead of stewardship, that relationship lasted much longer

Super cool of your parents to support you like that, not cool of them to control you, most parents like this miss the memo that kids need to actually start making decisions for themselves.

By sunk cost fallacy, I assume you mean about the money. Giving them all the money back at once is an interesting idea, how would you feel if a child of yours did that? How would you feel if they were up front about their new situation?

You know your parents and your situation better than any of us, use empathy and put yourself in their shoes and make the best decision you can.

Then next I would examine the redirect and check your stack, is it a 302, 304, etc, is there a service identifying header with the redirect?

After that I would try to completely change your setup for testing purposes, greatly simplify things removing as many variables as possible, maybe setup an api server with a single route on express or something and see if that can be faithfully served

If you can’t serve with even a simple setup then you need to go back to the drawing board and try a different option

You set the A record to your internal ip address from within your router?

Nginx configs have a lot of options, you can route differently depending on the source context

So a couple questions:

1. Do you only want to access this from your local network? If so setting up a domain name in the broader internet makes no sense, you’re telling the whole world what local ip within your switch/router is your server. Make your own dns or something if you just want an easier way to hit your local resources
2. do you want to access this from the internet, like when you’re away from home? Then the ip address you add to your a record should be your isp’s public ip address you were assigned, it will not start with 192.168, then you have your modem forward the port to your local system (nginx)

If you don’t know what you are doing and have a good firewall setup do not make this service public, you will receive tons and tons of attacks just for making a public a record.

It can be hard to put this into words well because it’s different in every situation and making universal statements are rarely correct but I’ll do my best

The problem here is twofold, 1. You feel insecure and 2. Your job is at risk

When interacting with people, not just at work, there are some keys to being well liked. You can be direct, but being direct often comes across as an air of superiority, as if you’re saying “I’m too good to pretend or do what everyone else is doing”. You’re saying you are above thinking about how your words will be received, and it’s the receiver’s job to avoid getting their emotions involved.

In a community, when one person considers themselves better than everyone else via this kind of “better than you” behavior, people will generally consider that person unfriendly or outcast them.

Capitulation and going with the flow of expectations is surprisingly one of the best ways to get ahead, it’s counter intuitive but debasing yourself for the ego of others (harsh way to phrase it, but true) can often make them amenable to just about anything you want. We are remarkably complex, yet fundamentally simple creatures, it doesn’t take much to make a person likable.

I see how you could draw that conclusion, but it’s definitely far from the default

https://madnight.github.io/githut/#/pull_requests/2024/1

Number 7 by github project stats

https://survey.stackoverflow.co/2025/technology#most-popular-technologies

12 by stack overflow’s survey

The biggest issue with accepting free housing and other perks is the unspoken cost. What are the expectations in return?

I’ve spent time in taiwan and mainland china, as well as many other asian countries, china has its citizenry riled up in rampant nationalism thanks to the isolation of the people and propaganda. The propaganda of taiwan (and hong kong) being part of china is deeply rooted in the state sponsored group-think and is not going away any time soon. I will say the people I met, while angry when speaking about taiwan, did not seem to wish the people there any ill will, rather they seemed upset about the very idea of taiwan being separate.

That’s all to say, the political situation is complex. However the real question here is multifold. 1) is it against your chosen moral framework to capitulate and live in china and 2) if it is, what are your morals worth to you, what specific monetary amount would get you to renounce your views.

Parts of china are beautiful, the culture is lovely especially in rural areas, and living there could genuinely be nice. However your country is currently presenting the world’s largest bullseye and while your presence won’t swing the final result, if you feel you have a moral responsibility to stay and speak up, then do so!

The ice watch apps

Why Cruise Ships Ban Camouflage

The camouflage ban is not a matter of dress code, where the nautical sea-dogs in their pristine ship’s whites turn their noses up at certain sartorial choices. It’s actually much more practical.

In a lot of countries, particularly in some cruise-friendly areas like the Caribbean, wearing camouflage is illegal as a civilian because it’s part of a military uniform. Think of it as being akin to impersonating a police officer; it’s really not the kind of confusion—or trouble—you want to get into on vacation. Even camo patterns with non-traditional colors beyond the usual brown and green are not allowed.

Processing (cpu) doesn’t really matter as much as gpu, and generally the constraint is gpu memory on consumer grade machines. Processing via nvidia chips has become the standard, which is a huge part of why they have become the single most valuable company on the planet, though you can use cpu you’ll find the performance almost unbearably slow.

Ollama is the easiest option, but you can also use option and pytorch (executorch), vllm, etc

You can download your model through huggingface or sometimes directly from the lab’s website

It’s worth learning the technical side but ollama genuinely does an excellent job and takes a ton off your plate

You can, after a vasectomy, directly draw swimmers using relatively expensive but available procedures. If you desperately urgently want progeny after making the decision you don’t need to reverse it to have children. It would require in vitro.

Search for “SSR and IVF”

Fuck flipboard and their stupid ass non disable-able default action on old samsung devices. I’ll hold that grudge till I die

You hit one button on your phone and it opened flipboard, an app I’ve never once wanted to open. Insanity.

https://forums.androidcentral.com/threads/anyone-know-how-can-i-remove-the-flipboard-system-app-please.324677/

Looks like the hat is some sort of oil open flame light source

The default branch for some projects is “production” since CD deploys on pushing to that branch

For new projects, main. My thought is that even if master is not offensive, since the industry has generally made the change, the only reason to stick with master is stubbornness or hating political correctness, neither of which aligns with my self-view so I’ll use main and move on.

In general if people are genuinely hurt by the use of some words, I’m not sadistic so I’ll avoid using them. From my perspective morality is the pursuit of the reduction of suffering, even if that suffering is internal.

I love the freedom of nihilism, our brain chemicals are the only thing making us happy or sad, they create morals, love, hate.

You know what, I guess in a way hormones are more human than the brain itself?

I am not an expert in your field, so you’ll know better about the domain specific ramifications of using llms for the tasks you’re asking about.

That said, one of the pieces of my post that I do think is relevant and important for both your domain and others is the idempotency and privacy of local models.

Idempotent implies that the model is not liquid (changing weights from one input to the next), and that the entropy is wranglable.

Local models are by their very nature not sending your data somewhere, rather they are running your input through your gpu, similar to many other programs on your computer. That needs to be qualified with: any non airgapped computer’s information is likely to be leaked at some point in its lifetime so adding classified information to any system is foolish and short sighted.

If you use chatgpt for collating private, especially classified information, openai have explicitly stated that they use chatgpt prompts for further training so yes absolutely that information will leak not only into future models but also it must be expected to be leaked in such a way that it would be traceable to you personally.

To summarize, using local llms is slightly better for tasks like the ones you’re asking about, and while the information won’t be shared with any ai company that does not guarantee safety from traditional snooping. Using remote commercial llms though? Absolutely your fears are justified and anyone using commercial systems like chatgpt inputting classified information will absolutely both leak that information and taint future models with the info. That taint isn’t even limited to just the one company/model, the act of distillation means other derivative models will also have that privileged information.

TLDR; yes, but less so for local ai models.

Obviously this is the fuckai community so you’ll get lots of agreement here.

I’m coming from all communities and don’t have the same hate for AI. I’m a professional software dev, have been for decades.

I have two minds here, on the one hand you absolutely need to know the fundamentals. You must know how the technology works what to do when things go wrong or you’re useless on the job. On the other hand, I don’t demand that the people who work for me use x86 assembly and avoid stack overflow, they should use whatever language/mechanism produces the best code in the allotted time. I feel similarly with AI. Especially local models that can be used in an idempotent-ish way. It gets a little spooky to rely on companies like anthropic or openai because they could just straight up turn off the faucet one day.

Those who use ai to sidestep their own education are doing themselves a disservice, but we can’t put our heads in the sand and pretend the technology doesn’t exist, it will be used professionally going forward regardless of anyone’s feelings.

It’s a major award

Your dad has the taste of a 1950s man

The comments about seeing a doctor for depression are coming from a caring place, but the reality of being without work for a while means it’s hard to afford seeing a doctor.

Chemical depression is not exactly something you can work yourself through, there are some people who claim magic mushrooms can help, but I’ve not seen any conclusive studies.

Fees that target the destitute are peak evil.