𝙲𝚑𝚊𝚒𝚛𝚖𝚊𝚗 𝙼𝚎𝚘𝚠

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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • Which need is satistied is important here. Sexual gratification is not the same as an apparent need to interact with someone who affirms everything you tell it to, basically acting as a personality mirror. And then falling in love with something that echoes your every thought does have a semblance of narcissism involved.

    Taking the dildo metaphor: having a dildo isn’t narcissistic. Being a dude and having a dildo molded after your own dick and exclusively using that as it’s “the best thing ever”, does seem a bit narcissistic, no?











  • Your sidebar rule explicitly talks about “hatred”. But I don’t see that at all in this comment. At worst it’s a critique of the US education system, which at this point I don’t think either side of the political spectrum is really happy with. It’s also well-known that the state of education differs greatly between US states.

    If he commented something along the lines of “Probably the USA, because you have to be a moron not to know this”, I could see your point. But they didn’t. They didn’t even pass any value judgment about Americans at all.

    It could even be a sarcastic reply, because the OP also posted what state they were from, so they “probably /s” are from the US.

    I think you’re making a lot of assumptions about this user and their mindset when they wrote this comment. As you’ve seen from the immense feedback you got, the vast majority of users heavily disagree with you that they violated the sidebar rule. Being too heavy-handed on the moderation damages communities, it does not protect them.

    In my opinion, this user should have been let off with a warning, and the comment should have stayed up because it requires a very subjective reading for it to come close to violating the sidebar rule. Alternatively you could have issued a warning and removed the comment if you want to err on the side of (excessive) caution. But a full ban was not appropriate.








  • Perhaps a slightly less doom-and-gloomy scenario (because not all muslims hate women): in many muslim cultures it’s expected that a relationship turns into a marriage quickly. A non-muslim colleague of mine started dating a muslim girl and her family was totally supportive of the relationship, but he did have to marry her within just a couple months of dating. They were both happy to do so but they’re a fair bit older than you are. Your girlfriend might not feel ready for such a thing.

    Talk to her about it, and ask if she’s worried about her family’s reaction, what she expects and why. Don’t pressure her into introducing you to the family, but clarify that you’d just like to know why. You can express you’d like to meet them of course, but just remember that her decision should be final in all this. That will help your relationship going forward, and once she is ready for it you’ll get to meet them.