SybilVane

Yes, you are the odd one. Ads are literally designed to be difficult to ignore.

It is what it is.

I struggle so much with this. People were already bad at reading emails and following instructions (e.g. ask them to answer 4 questions which I have helpfully listed below, in bold, and they answer the first one and call it a day) but now they just let the a.i. handle it. So instead of not getting answers, I get incorrect and unreviewed answers that just sound like they might be right.

Then of course when I do the work, and it turns out to be completely useless because it was based on bad information, and it needs to be completely redone. That means wasted hours of time and productivity for me with nothing to show for it. All because someone else wanted to save 5 minutes.

Ladies, I am a curvy 13 year old but I still chase like a cat half my age! I am looking for my true love to spend the rest of my life with (must be Christian, no more than 5 years old, and orange).

I live with my parents and my siblings (one of them is a dog, the other is a jerk) and I WILL NOT groom myself so you must be willing to do it for me. I will complain the entire time.

No tabbies.

My cat is not very tech savvy.

Acting like he hates the snuggles but doing nothing to get away, then looking obviously disappointed when I stop.

Cuddling up against me while I’m distracted so when I look beside me there’s a surprise cat there I can pet.

Hurrying me up to give him food, but once the food is served he comes up to me to give me a quick petting opportunity before he digs in. It’s my reward for feeding, him I guess. If I don’t take the chance to pet him, he won’t wait for me, so I need to act fast!

No black outlines for this one, it makes it feel very different. More open.

Nice! I love the colors in this one!

Just because it’s not what you like doesn’t make it a waste of supplies. I actually really like some of their stuff. The colors really pop in that medium and it brings out the chaos. It’s experimental and unique. I came to see the comments precisely because I was interested in it. Your comment didn’t offer any constructive criticism. You don’t even say what it is you don’t like. You’re just discouraging someone from expressing themselves.

Why would you comment something like this?

I’ve never encountered one and I download from there a lot!

A lot of people did, and I think that’s really interesting! There’s a lot of focus, even commercialization, around dating for men. So much is geared towards how to get a (romantic) relationship, and I think a lot of people’s self worth is tied to it. And chances are, if you’re feeling that, someone else you know is feeling it too!

I encourage everyone here to reach out to a friend today and see how they’re doing. I’m not going to pretend that’s going to solve the loneliness issue. That’s clearly systemic. But reaching out is something most of us can do.

While I agree about third places, I think it’s interesting that you then focused on dating.

Loneliness means lack of friendships and family ties as well. I think a lot of men are focused on dating, and even when they are in a relationship, they use that as their only source of socialization outside the workplace. A lot of the barriers that exist for one are true for the rest as well, it is hard to make friends nowadays as an adult! There are so many people that stop trying, and it isn’t surprising.

Nothing too complex. I come from a culture where you take one last name from each parent. No hyphen. Just FirstName LastName1 LastName2.

Some systems put LastName1 as my middle name and shortened it to one letter. Some excluded LastName2. Some squished both last names into one name, sometimes with a hyphen, sometimes not.

But because every system did its own thing, no one could ever find me. I had 2 different credit scores at one point. I received 3 voting cards every election, all of them wrong, despite the fact that every election cycle I would take the hours it takes to report the errors and get them to “fix” it. I was enrolled twice in one class in grade 4 under two separate wrong names. And whatever name my high school used on their system, I wasn’t showing up when universities searched for my records, so I kept getting rejection letter after rejection letter with no explanation and it took me months to track down the cause and have it fixed, by which point it was too late to get into several schools. I also couldn’t buy certain things online because some stores’ paymentet methods wouldn’t let me put in the name of my credit card as it was written. Oh, and the government couldn’t get the name on my social insurance card and the name on my taxes to match. This affected my online logins, so I would need to call on the phone to verify myself for each tax-related transaction, including simple address changes.

I’m from a different culture than my husband and my last name was a bureaucratic nightmare. Almost didn’t make it into university because of computer mix ups, have had issues filing taxes, voting, getting a passport, settings basic IDs, getting insurance… It’s endless. Changed my name as soon as I could, and even THAT process was hindered by my original name.

Bonuses: Distance myself from social media I had as a child. Harder for former stalkers to locate me if they decide to rekindle their previous obsessions. Don’t need to upset one set of grandparents when you name your children one parent’s last name and not the other. People stop asking me where I’m from and making racist assumptions about me. Everyone seems a lot friendlier now that they assume I’m [insert European white race here] instead of [insert non-white race here] and that’s despite the fact that I’m clearly white. Racism is wild. My signature is way shorter.

Not saying this should be the norm, but I was happy it was a socially acceptable option for me.