At some point, I got quite some worried/pitiful look because i didn’t own a car but only a (non-motorized) bike. People are weird!
In the other hand, I got along with people wanting to make our own “bike gang”, aka commuting to work together.
I’m so are you went through that. I remember how surprised my then-boyfriend was when he had a bad day and I helped him out, listened to him, and did not hold it against him. He was utterly shocked, while at the same time he had been helping me deal with much heavier shit that was impacting my daily life…
This ideal that men are 100% tough sucks so much.
This is incredibly pretty! Thanks for sharing!
To build up on it: think long term as well.
Nowadays, it’s a 20% pay reduction. How does it look for long term? Will you have growth options in the new position? Will it sabotage your resume? Will you be able to keep adding to your 401k? How likely it is that a rotten apple coming would spoil the mood in the new job?
And: are you really really absolutely sure that the new job would be more chill for you? Think about yourself and think about how you would feel in that job after 6 months to a year. Would you still appreciate it? Would you get resentful because you have little to do while you could do so much more? What would be your frame of mind after a while?
As a general statement: worrying doesn’t help, only raises your stress levels and negatively impact your immune system.
There are here causes for concern, and your fear is justified. Other than isolation from your wife, there is not much to do.
As a side note: being in constant contact with other humans raises your immune responses, because you are constantly trained to fight off mild infections. Coming back from full isolation was really rough on my partner, they kept getting “the flu” (something or other) every time they went to a crowded place, even just the supermarket at rush hour. It took them a year to develop a normal immune response again.
As long as you don’t have symptoms, assume you are healthy, and stray separated. Obviously, if you already got Covid yesterday, then that ship has sailed, but what if you didn’t? What if your immune system is still fighting it off and will give out in two hours? Chances are slim, but not none.
Good point!
Other hypotheses: we say “true happiness” when it’s sustainable (for a bit) without obvious negative effects. Thus drugs are stereotypically not sustainable and with negative effects, so they are not true happiness [obviously many would disagree, e.g. Baudelaire] and finding true love is true happiness. Thus, stories are also true happiness.
I think the concept of “false happiness” is given by the ends result of such behavior. Doing fruits gives you a high, but also addiction, so in the long run it’s bad for you. Having a fake relationship does not allow you to develop a real one, thus being a negative over time. True happiness is something that should make you happy in the moment and in the long run.
For this reason, media is true happiness.
I wad happy reading the lord of the rings and I’m happy I read it. The happiness reading produced has kept being a source of additional happiness. I remember Bilbo’s songs, and think about them when I take a walk. I remember small little details, or big plot points, and I’m happy to remember them. Same can be said about films and video games (I am just less passionate about them, but that’s just me)
I agree on the first part, I am unsure about the meaning of the second one. Reading a book is for me a great source of happiness, and I wouldn’t completely replace it even given infinite resources.
Personal must try in Munich that hasn’t popped up yet: the Residenzmuseum. In general, the whole city center is incredibly pretty, but the museum of the palace of the “kings” (not always really king, I mostly forgot the story but the local area boss) is positively stunning. Each new big boss built a new section of the palace, making a very complex architecture with the specific intent on impressing the visitors. Even hundreds of years later, it still does its job.
Neuschwanstein is the Disney castle. Equally fake, equally magnificent.
If you go in September, you have to pass by the Oktoberfest. It’s a huuuuuge town fair, mostly centered around beer, rowdiness and chanting, but if you go before “drinking time” (aka 4ish pm) it’s quite family oriented, with plenty of food stalls and general fair flair.
Tollwood has already been pointed out, there is the summer version and the winter one. It’s a “hippy” festival centered around discovering world cultures. Lots of music, from local artists to world known (for which you need to buy tickets in advance).
If you go not in winter, you have to try out a beergarten, traditional places with beers and a limited selection of local pub foods. If you go in winter, the Christmas markets are fun, even if the Munich one is not particularly well known.
Have a good walk by the Englisher Garten, a massive park in the city center. Avoid eating at the Chinesiche Turm, that’s too much of a tourist trap.
As others have pointed out, you are in the middle of Europe, so you can easily consider small trips all around: Berlin, Paris, Vienna are all a direct train away. Rome, Madrid, Barcelona, London have direct flight connections.
Having a small kid, I find it hilarious and heartwarming to see sooo many people of all ages wanting to interact just to get a laugh out of a small human!
I might come across as abrasive myself in this comment, you are free to completely discard anything I write.
You were fired after only 8 weeks from a position as ER nurse. Aren’t ER nurses quite difficult to find? 8 weeks is a pretty short time. So the managers considered, after such a short time, that it was better to loose you than to keep you. That having you in their team was a negative. And they didn’t warn you, so they thought that either you would not heed the warning or that your behavior was too serious a liability for them that they would skip the warning all together.
Considering this, I would encourage you to find their point of view on the matter. Even if it seems to you that everything was good, did you overlook communication? Did you act as a lone wolf in a team? Did you overlook to show off your own contributions? Each one could have significant ramifications.
The examples you give are quite extreme, did you communicate about them correctly or could you communication look like pointing fingers? Did you follow up on them in the way that is usually used in the team? Did you make an enemy of a key player?
I know work politics can be exhausting. In this direction, I don’t have advice other than learning from every experience.
I’m okay breaking the rules if that’s how the language is usually spoken, but It’s still interested in learning the rule
I think the whole premise of Duolingo that learning a language means translating to and from it is bonkers. I know multiple languages at various levels, and every time to speak I create my sentences in the target language directly. Translating is a totally different skill set
There are some limitations though: often native speakers don’t have a deep understanding of the grammar rules they use, because they use them intuitively. So sometimes learning this way makes it a bit foggy. I often use this technique when I’m already familiar with the target language, At a basic level.
I agree: a university is a workplace for a lot of people, and work is expected to take place during working hours, by definition in our society that means 9-5. I never even heard this discussion being brought up, honestly
That’s not the time travel I like because it doesn’t create any fun paradoxes!
I support the “unique universe” idea, with all the paradoxes that that can generate. So, you send the ball back to 1969. Has the ball then been bouncing up and down the room since then? You should have seen it when you threw your “new” ball, then!
Or the same ball cannot exist twice at the same time, then somehow the 1969 ball stopped existing when the now-ball got created. And you will never get your ball back because it disappeared in the past.
Or the universe fixes itself, then when your ball disappeared in the time portal, the 1969 version somehow reappeared in the room, but that is the paradox that needs the most “fixing”, so I don’t prefer it
I am not familiar with that history at all, honestly. So that probably shaped my view of the story
Quite some businesses in my area do that. I was quite surprised the first time I saw it, but it makes sense. They usually have distance bands and some extra cost if you are further than a 15-20 minute drive.